I saw this on PostSecret today and it screamed at me. I've known for two years that sometimes what I was experiencing was emotional abuse. I'm stubborn and strong but I still lost so much because of the way he manipulated me and tried to own me. This doesn't only happen to weak, wimpy girls who aren't feminists and don't know what they deserve. It happens to anyone. What can I do now to stop this from happening to other people?
Anyhow. I wish I could say that I specifically remember when I first felt that maybe I wasn't the same in Brian's eyes as I was in my own. I wish I could remember the first time he held me back from what I wanted to do or the first time his words made me feel tiny and stupid. I do remember the first time I realized that my relationship wasn't exactly what I had thought.
We were in Linens N' Things. I had a gift card from my neighbors and I was buying whatever I thought I needed for college (btw, I was mostly wrong). In the kitchen section I went to buy some glasses and I made some alcohol-related comment, to which his response was, "you're not drinking in college." Just like that, not a question, not a concern, just a command. It shocked me. He had kept that side him of so well-covered and it hadn't crossed my mind yet that my boyfriend would ever have anything to do with what I did or didn't do (aside from the obvious, like hooking up with other guys, which would still have to be my choice and not his command). It seemed ridiculous to me and I wrote it off, thinking he either didn't really mean it or he'd just get over it. Of couse I was going to drink in college. What could he possibly think I was going to do, experience higher learning?
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